Ways to Deal with Difficult PeopleCategory: Call Center Tips, Communication, Employee Engagement, HR, Leadership, Motivation, Performance, Productivity
Posted by: Bucky Cline on June 21, 2011
We’ve all had to deal with difficult people at some point. Difficult people can present a unique problem when they are your employees and it is your job to manage them.
I’d like to note that dealing with difficult people is different than conflict management. Conflict management is about dealing with a difficult situation. I am going to posit some tips for dealing specifically with the character traits of difficult people.
Often the key to success when dealing with a difficult person is how much control you have over their behavior. You may have anywhere from total control to zero control. The only 100% control you have is over your own behavior. Here are six common character traits of difficult people. This is by no means a complete and extensive list, but it will get you started!
Bullies are angry and hostile. They throw tantrums to get their own way. The want attention. The best thing to do is not back down! Do not allow the bully to monopolize the attention of the group. Remove them from the situation and you remove their ability to control the situation.
Gripers are constantly complaining. If it’s not one thing its another. They rarely take initiative to change anything! A good way to deal with a Griper is to empower them. Empower them to come up with a solution to their problem(s). Ask them “Why can’t we do this or that?”, “Why won’t it work?”, “What can we do to make it work?” Put pressure on them to solve the problem. Once they feel empowered and heard, you might be surprised at their accomplishments!
The Silent Type
You rarely get more than a “Yes” or “No” answer out of the Silent Type. Like with the Gripers, the best thing to do is empower them. Start by taking away their Yes/No crutch! Let them know you are listening and get them involved in the group dynamic. Ask for their opinion, make them expand their answers and do not accept “Yes” or “No” as their final say.
The Just Say No Type
The “Just Say No” Types will answer every new idea with a “That won’t work”, or “We’ve tried it before.” A good way to deal with Just Say No-ers is to ask why. Just Say No Type’s can only see obstacles. Where some see opportunity, this group sees a road block. But if you ask them about the obstacles they see, you may be able to offer assistance in overcoming those barriers.
The Know-It-Alls know everything! They are condescending and full of themselves. Deal with them by letting them know they don’t have all the answers. Be prepared with your own set of facts and figures. Remind them there is always more than one way to look at any situation and they might only be aware of their own point of view.
Stallers put things off until someone else takes over or until its too late to do anything. You need to remove the obstacles that the Stallers will not remove themselves. Have them set goals and set shorter time limits on their goals! If you have a monthly progress meeting, reschedule it to happen every week.
Keep in mind your course of action when dealing with a difficult person is:
EVENT + RESPONSE = OUTCOME
You have no control over the event, but you have total control over your response. for anyone who has ever raised children, you’re aware that maintaining control of a situation and remaining calm (i.e. controlling your response) is a very difficult task indeed.